Bumping your head

There is a saying that goes something like this; “you can’t keep doing the same thing and look for different results.” Well I know this and I wholeheartedly believe in this saying. Question to self is, self! My self goes huh? Self says, ” why do you continue to do the same thing then?” My self goes I dont know. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ. Is it only me? Am I the only crazy person around here?

I know better 99% of times I do something wrong or foolish. Like I have a strong mental but a soft heart. My heart makes me do things that my mental knows I shouldn’t. And not only that, the two of them have conversations with each other. And I’ll go a step further. My mental has conversations with my therapist too. So more times than not it’s mental two to the heart one. Somehow though the heart still gets me in trouble. So why? Why Sandra? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ

First I heard, “girl when you turn forty you gone have this I don’t give a care attitude.” Well I’m closer to fifty than I am to forty and guess what? Yeap you guessed it. I still give a care. Still being lead by the heart when I honesty believe I’m the last one left in this world that follows that flow. So now I’m hearing, “girl when you turn 50 you really not gone give a care.” I’ll wait. Come back in a few years and I’ll update you as to if I’ve stopped giving a care. ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”

Growth is interesting. Sometimes you may not even know that you’re growing based on how you’re feeling. But I believe although things may not be going as you planned, you are still growing. Sometimes things are just simply not as they appear. Life is funny. As Maze says, “you have to take the rain with the sunshine.” So it’s a rolling average in my opinion. You can’t just base growth on a particular situation. You know you fall down and get back up. The fall is what happened. But the get up is the action you take towards growth.

I’m silly. I laugh a lot. I’m a smiler. Is that a word? ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿพโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿค”. Any who I’ve learned that situations that come in my life are not to destroy me. I’ve learned that I can make it through ANYTHING. As Paul states in Philippians 4:12, I’ve literally learned how to be abase and abound. Life and situations that you face will teach you this. Praise God for the bumping of heads. Can you even imagine life with no upheavals? No hardships? I can’t. A good bruise in life is like the scares on your hardwood floors. They both give character.

So today welcome the bumping of the heads. Stand tall and strong on your morals and value. Allow your heart to help your mental and vice versa. Welcome let down. Don’t go into hiding. Don’t resist it. Press through it all. Going through the fire isn’t all that bad. If you can believe that the three Hebrew boys came out not burned. Smoke free. How much more greater shall you come forward? Plus don’t you want to be tried like gold? Can you imagine buying gold that hasn’t been tried? ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ. Some people do but we not talking about those people here.

I have a friend guy that sleeps in his gold necklace and bracelets. Has for years. What if they weren’t pure gold? My Lord his body would be plagued with fungus. ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿคฎ. Now do an analogy to you and your life not being tried just like gold not being tried. You’d be a mess. Moral of the story is we can withstand the fire. I promise you. The bumps on the head are so worth it. Learn to count it all JOY. Be encouraged on today my friends. ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ


Iโ€™m learning

I’m learning not to fight every battle. Every situation doesn’t deserve my energy or to hear the thoughts going on in my head. That’s a big change for me. Normally everything that comes my way I deal with. I guess age and life will change you. I’m tired I guess. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿค”

I believe often times people know exactly what they’re doing and more times than not they are actually looking for a reaction from you. Then after you react you’re the one all in an uproar and the other person somewhere chilling. Plus I honestly know that my battles are not won in the natural. They are won in the spirit and that my victory will come via prayer. Awesome reminder, hmmmmm, little bit more prayer and less trying to reason or figure things out on my own.

I’m learning to not allow people and/or situations pull me out of my zone. I said I’m learning ๐Ÿคช๐Ÿคช. I’m not a 100% there but I can feel myself wanting to stop and think before I react now. I don’t necessarily want to get even or retaliate. Go San! Go San! ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

You hear folks say life is short. Well I dont know if it’s short. I won’t know till mine ends and even then I still won’t know. ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคท๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ. But what I do want to do is live the best version of me as I possibly can. Evaluating myself daily. Taking inventory and adjusting as I need to. Be grateful for my journey. I want to love, kiss, and hug. I want to laugh, travel, and watch tennis. I want to make a difference in this world. I want to leave a legacy that my love ones will be proud of.

What a perfect visual โ˜๐Ÿฝ. This is exactly what we need. More hugging. More patience. More compassion. More empathy. More love. And I dont know about you but I need more Jesus.

On today I encourage you to stop and think before you react. Don’t worry about someone having the upper hand. Make sure you’re being authentic to you. Love hard. If someone doesn’t return the love don’t worry. That’s not your problem. But don’t let it stop you from being you. We all reap what we sow. I promise you. And at the end you’ll win the battle I promise you. Getting even has never helped me. Trust me I’ve tried it several times. ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฝโ€โ™€๏ธ

Smile! ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜€

Being A Mother

I started my motherhood career early. I didn’t know what I was doing. I probably still don’t know what am doing. My babies are 29, 27, and 22 years young and they’re by far my biggest and greatest accomplishment.

The journey hasn’t been easy. They grew up with me. It was all test and error. I pretty much applied all the good things my village taught me and tried to do away with the bad things. For example, I didn’t raise my babies on holidays. They’ve never had a Christmas tree, they never been trick or treating. They didn’t get money when they lost their teeth. They’ve never hunted for eggs. I told them from the beginning that it was ALL lies. Christ has nothing to do with any of that. But every year they took trips and gave back to less fortunate people. I thought those two were more important.

I also raised them in church. They seemed to love it when they were younger. I dont know if either of them faithfully goes now. But I do know that they know the word of God because they use on me when I’m cutting up. ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”. So I know they know regardless if they are living it or not. I don’t live it 100% either and yes I know better too.

Overall I believe I raised three great creatures. They’re striving and thriving trying to figure this thing called LIFE out. So am I. I love all three of them. They were all raised in the same house for their entire lives but all three of them are totally different. It’s crazy too. Their personalities are HUGE. Where they get their personalities from I dont know. They’d say me but they are so much more grand than I am.

I’ve had a fallen out with all three of them. My fallouts with Kisha last the longest. Go figure. The first born. My only daughter. ๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”๐Ÿค”. We cool right now as of this post and I pray we stay cool. I want us to do some work together to help other parents that struggle the same way we struggle. But we have a lot of work to do ourselves. But it’s on the list. Stay tuned for an organization to arise soon. Here lately I’m realizing that my oldest son is ME in the male body. ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜ณ. How did that happen? He’s a force to be reckoned with.

My baby boy perhaps I breast fed too long but not literally. He’s still trying to figure life out at 22, and that’s okay. AGAIN, I’m still trying to figure it out too. We both love hot weather and wants to move somewhere that’s hot at least 360 days of the year. My oldest son will try anything once. Me and the other two we good with what we already know. Although the baby boy is starting to venture out a little bit here lately. ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿพ

We’ve been through a lot as a young family. I dont know if it’s any more than any other family. Not really comparing. But we making it. I love being a mother. So much so that I want another one. However I’m not sure if that’ll ever happen. Nothing wrong with wanting, hoping, and wishing tho. ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ๐Ÿฅฐ

This Mother’s Day I was in the bed the entire day miserable in my body but happy in my heart. All three of my babies were with me. That hadn’t happened in years. So I was overwhelmed with joy!

To all the mothers out there enjoy the rides of ups and downs. Peaks and valleys. Cry. Laugh. You’re not perfect but I’m sure you’re the perfect mom to those that Jesus charged you to nurture. Don’t compare yourself. Pray. Believe. Strive. Thrive. Stand boldly in your convictions with what you feel is right. Love hard. Communicate. Stay involved. But most importantly breathe and be YOU, a beautiful Mom.

Enjoy the silly videos of me with my babies. We are not perfect but we are perfect for each other with all our troubles. Be encouraged.

Time for a Little Jokie Joke!!!!!

Isn’t this funny?ย  I received this via email from my girl Kim Craft!!!

Subject: Cursing at Work
Dear Employees:
It has been brought to management’s attent ion that some individuals
throughout the company have been using foul language during the course
of normal conversation with their co-workers.

Due to complaints received from some employees who may be easily
offended, this type of language will no longer be tolerated.
We do, however, realize the critical importance of being able to
accurately express your feelings when communicating with co-workers.
Therefore, a list of 18 New and Innovative โ€œTRY SAYINGโ€ phrases have
been provided so that proper exchange of ideas and information can
continue in an effective manner.

Number 1
TRY SAYING: I think you could use more training.
INSTEAD OF: You don’t know what the f–k you’re doing.

Number 2
TRY SAYING: She’s an aggressive go-getter.
INSTEAD OF: She’s a f–king b–tch.

Number 3
TRY SAYING: Perhaps I can work late.
INSTEAD OF: And when the f–k do you expect m e to do this?

Number 4
TRY SAYING: I’m certain that isn’t feasible.
INSTEAD OF: No f–king way.

Number 5
INSTEAD OF: You’ve got to be f–king kidding?

Number 6
TRY SAYING: Perhaps you should check with…
INSTEAD OF: Tell someone who gives a sh–.
Number 7
TRY SAYING: I wasn’t involved in the project.
INSTEAD OF: It’s not my f–king problem.

Number 8
TRY SAYING: That’s interesting.
INSTEAD OF: What the f–k?

Number 9
TRY SAYING: I’m not sure this can be implemented.
INSTEAD OF: This sh– won’t work.

Number 10
TRY SAYING: I’ll try to schedule that.
INSTEAD OF: Why the f–k didn’t you tell me sooner?

Number 11
TRY SAYING: He’s not familia r with the issues…
INSTEAD OF: He’s got his head up his a–.

Number 12
TRY SAYING: Excuse me, sir?
INSTEAD OF: What the f–k did you say?

Number 13
TRY SAYING: So you weren’t happy with it?
INSTEAD OF: Kiss my a–.

Number 14
TRY SAYING: I’m a bit overloaded at the moment.
INSTEAD OF: F–k that, I’m on salary.

Number 15
TRY SAYING: I don’t think you understand.
INSTEAD OF: Are you f–king stupid?

Number 16
TRY SAYING: I love a challenge.
INSTEAD OF: This f–king job sucks.

Number 17
TRY SAYING: You want me to take care of that?
INSTEAD OF: Who the f–k died and made you boss?

Number 18
TRY SAYING: He’s somewhat insensitive.
INSTEAD OF: Heโ€™s a f–king jackass.

Thank You,
Human Resources